Favored with this advantage, some men, despite their own unchastity, used to insist that their bride be a virgin. Against this demand, the non-virgin bride would argue that her little experience might help. In these old days the new wife may have connived at her husband's unchastity because she hoped to benefit from his premarital experiences with professional women.

With the change of times and the spread of the idea of equal rights for both sexes, voices have been raised against the injustice of requiring the virginity of the bride. The advocates of women's rights argue that men are not subject to restrictions, whereas women are placed in a disadvantageous position if she lost her virginity, regardless of the circumstances.

The outlook on chastity among the younger generation of today is appalling. But even more outrageous are the adults who make commercial capital of it. A motion picture was titled "Away With Chastity!" and some girls have been heard to remark they "threw it away because it was a nuisance." This is stepping beyond the realm of equal rights. It is a resistance for the sake of resistance. This attitude on the part of young women (men may be encouraging them) may be related to the recent prevalence of pre-marital sex.

Apart from religious prohibitions and moral and ethical influence, virginity has its value. However eagerly woman may strive for equality and succeed in it socially, she may not do so well from the medical viewpoint. Both the male and the female have equally strong desires for monopoly. Monogamy in civilized societies may have been prompted partly by religious or moral beliefs, but another important factor is that it is the most stable form of male-female relationship, otherwise the practice would have been broken down a long time ago no matter how strict a religious or moral prohibition may be enforced.

The male by instinct is attracted to virgin soil. He wants to explore lands untrodden by man. He defies danger to conquer high mountains. He even dares to explore and conquer outer space, of which little is known. And the woman is no exception. It is only natural for the male to look for a virgin as his partner in marriage. If he marries a non-virgin he was unaware of it or his love was strong enough to suppress his psychological demand. Or the situation called for a compromise. Unless he is after physical pleasure alone, a man normally would never be interested in a woman abandoned by his friend. It differs basically from the male psychology in which he tries to take away a woman going steady with another man.

In short, throughout the ages, the female has never lost anything from being a virgin. The only difference today is that, unlike in the past, virginity is not an absolute condition for marriage. Nevertheless it is foolish to ignore it completely.

Most men feel an enormous satisfaction and pride in learning that they are the first to be loved by a girl and to "make a woman out of her."  Women should bear this in mind: an unmarried man is likely to slight the value of virginity and chastity for his own convenience. But when it comes to his own marriage he may wish for a virgin bride. Whereas men can pretend to have had no sexual experience, women who have once lost their virginity can never regain it or hide the fact from their partners. Women should always be on the guard against falling prey to a man who tries to lure them into giving up virginity by preaching equality of both sexes.

Sexual Power in Middle-aged Men and Women

The middle-aged change in men is not as obvious as the female menopause. Sperm production declines with the deterioration of the testicles' function normally in the fifties, but sexual desire does not necessarily decline. It may instead grow stronger and continue into his sixties. Sexual desire is aroused by emotional and sexual stimulation and makes erection possible. Despite the lack of sperm production, ejaculation can occur. Sexual ability does not depend on physical strength; nor does it deteriorate proportionately with aging. Yet, male aging in the forties easily leads to "emotional impotence," which can be traced to numerous causes. Let us consider a few of them.

The principal factor is age-consciousness. As a man reaches the age of 40-the half-way mark of his life-he suddenly becomes careful of his health, hoping to make the best of the remaining half. Consequently, he becomes sensitive to the exhaustion resulting from sexual intercourse. He should be careful in choosing his sex positions but, out of ignorance or vanity, he insists on the leading role as ever. He attempts to attain his objective with as little pains as possible, but ironically he tires easily because he is so emotionally aroused that he struggles to ejaculate. He tries self-control to correct it, and the more he tries the longer he holds his ejaculation, and finally he becomes impotent as he loses confidence and completely surrenders.

Ejaculation, as we remember, occurs in response to not only local stimulation but also emotional excitement. If sexual excitement is restrained ejaculation is delayed and eventually impotence develops. Overstrain definitely should be avoided in and after middle age, when a man tires easily from activities other than sexual. Consequently, he cannot determine the frequency of intercourse on the sole basis of fatigue. Then, what should he do?

Just because a man reaches the age of 40, it does not mean that he should be suddenly concerned with fatigue from sexual intercourse. Unless his sexual desire is aroused naturally, he should not perform intercourse. It is not wise to force oneself to stimulate the brain to arouse sexual desire. But when he is aroused in a natural way, he should forget his age and thoroughly enjoy the act to his full satisfaction, just as he used to when he was younger. This will step up metabolism, enabling him to benefit emotionally and physically. Sexual intercourse should not be restrained at middle age.

Nevertheless, men in or after their forties should be subject to some limits as to frequency: It is wise not to exceed once in four days in one's forties and once a week in the fifties. These are limits and it does not mean that one should perform at this frequency. Of course, it is a great mistake to concentrate the monthly total into two weeks or so. Another problem arises from the age difference with the female. Two or three years' difference does not matter much but when it comes to five to ten years, the husband is already in his forties while the wife is still in her thirties, or the prime of her womanhood. Out of pride or obligation, the husband seeks to satisfy his wife, who may have a seemingly insatiable desire, and realizing his declining energy, he becomes desperate. The author's advice is: before this happens the couple should derive from their past experience a sex position, such as the man-supine position or the side position, which allows the woman to take the leading role and to come to orgasm or enjoy a similar satisfaction. It is only through this means that the man as well as the woman can have happiness. Passionate preliminary caresses for the woman become more and more essential at this age. The caresses may enable the woman to reach orgasm during a short intercourse following them.

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